As any LGBTQ+ person would know, you can get insults thrown at you all the time, such as fag, queer and homo just to name a few, which then can bring on negative feelings for the word, and rightly so.
Personally, I call myself a queer, that is what I identify as, and I also call a cigarette a fag as that is what my family has always referred to it as. I think that if you don’t like the word queer etc, then don’t use it, I personally would never use something that could be considered a slur around other LGBTQ+ people as they could get offended and that isn’t something that I want to do.
As reclaiming the word Queer is a personal choice I have asked one of my friends their opinion on this subject.
Reclaiming slurs has always been present within oppressed group and the LGBT community is no exception, slurs like ‘Queer’ are often reclaimed by LGBT people. For some, it is an empowering ‘fuck you’ to the people seeking to offend, however, at the end of the day it is important to remember that it is still actively used as a slur. As LGBT people, it is a personal choice whether or not we reclaim ‘Queer’ to simply use the word or to describe yourself or attach your identity to. There is no problem with this, the problem lies in the word ‘Queer’ as a word to describe LGBT people as a whole, when the word is still a symbol of violence and hatred against our community it is an absolute slap in the face to the LGBT kids living with unaccepting families who hear this word against them every day. Should you chose to, reclaim the slur, but it’s crucial to consider the weight of the word, and the members of our community who are suffering because of that word.